Triggers
What are triggers?
Experiences in life are triggers.
Triggers are words, seen or heard from others such as a friend, partner, boss, TV, etc.
Triggers are actions observed by others or your own.
Triggers can be a feeling about a situation, or the energy felt from a person in the situation.
Firstly, Don’t react when you are triggered.
Stop – know you are here for a reason.
Breathe – gives to the ability to stay still or grounded.
Observe – look at the body language.
Hear – the words, the tone and discern the intent.
Ask questions for clarification.
This is the time to just be in this moment. To observe what happened and let it be. Listen carefully to what the words are saying. Take time to connect to the energy of that moment. Then decide how to move forward and move on from the trigger.
If the trigger continues to affect you, take time to understand how or what it is.
Where in your body did you feel it?
Move your body to release any energies that may have occurred.
Meditate – this gives you space and time to connect to yourself.
Journal – writing creates another way of seeing what you experienced.
Remember your values – did the trigger affect them?
Once you have concluded what and why you were triggered, have the conversation or email by saying, When you…, I felt…, As a result.
Triggers are teachers, lessons learned.
Stand in your power, there is a reason you are in this moment. Speak your truth. Be honest with yourself and the person or people involved. Honour yourself and the person by being quiet for a time and speaking again when you are grounded and centred. Approach this person or people with love, understanding and compassion.
Lastly, forgive, forgive yourself and forgive them. Let it go.
The next time you see or hear the same words, you will not be triggered, because you have resolved the issue. You are free once again.
